We all have infinite potential but often our results don’t reflect that. Deeply ingrained unconscious beliefs (which are simply feelings of certainty about what something means) are influencing these results in ways we cannot see.
When you have a deep belief, even unconsciously, it can sabotage your potential through the action or non-action you take based on the belief, which then creates the less than desirable results that hold you back from real success.
But because of who we truly are—infinite potential—we can learn to move through all that hinders us from living our dharma. In fact, such obstacles can actually be used as opportunities for our further expansion.
● 8 common limiting beliefs that hold you back from creating success and true fulfillment at work and in life
● A new empowering belief to replace the old limiting belief
● A new habit to instill the new empowering belief
LIMITING BELIEF #1 - “I am not unique”
As a personal brand strategist, I often hear people say that they don’t have anything different to offer from others who have the same title, credentials or work in the same industry. They don’t believe that they are unique and don’t know how they can stand out from the crowd. This belief can kill your confidence, your ability to believe in your unique gifts and excel. Don’t let it hold you back! The reality is, it’s ENTIRELY untrue! You are unique from every other person on this planet in numerous and immeasurable ways and you have the ability to change or effect someone else’s life like no one else can.
NEW EMPOWERING BELIEF: There is no one else who has my exact experience and knowledge and who can serve in the way that only I can.
NEW EMPOWERING HABIT: Write a list of you interests, passions, skills, knowledge, experience, and desires. Each day read this list and decide one thing you can do that day that uses a facet of yourself on that list to help someone you know or come across.
LIMITING BELIEF #2 - “I don’t know what I want”
Many people can tell you all about what they DON’T want in their life, but when you ask them about what they do want they become unsure and settle for saying “I don’t know what I want”. Staying in confusion or overwhelm and complaining about what is not working can be comfortable because it has the pay-off of not having to take decisive action or responsibility and take what feels like a risk. But repeating this story will quickly put the brakes on your success.
NEW EMPOWERING BELIEF: I have a clear vision for my future and the completion of the steadfast actions I take towards my vision is the best measure of my success
NEW EMPOWERING HABIT: Research shows that keeping visual reminders of your personal goals will help you achieve your results. Create a clear vision for what you are creating as well as a vision board and reflect on it daily. You can learn how to do this by taking a free course like this one.
LIMITING BELIEF #3 - “I don’t have time”
This belief can sound like “I don’t have time for < insert self-care habit> ie. exercise, meditation, hiking etc.” OR “If I take time off I will fall behind” OR “I must respond to every request right away”. These are all a conversation about lack of time and putting off the things that you “should” do for yourself for another time. But the key is to turn your “shoulds” into “musts”. Investing time in meditation and self-care allows you to tap into the infinite field of creativity which is the place where insight and inspiration lives. Without accessing this space you risk the potential of perpetuating problems, serious burnout or disease.
NEW EMPOWERING BELIEF: Everyone has the same amount of time in the day and I allow infinite intelligence to work when I am connected to the present moment.
NEW EMPOWERING HABIT: Start by tracking where you spend your time. This will help you to better prioritize and schedule your activities accordingly. Begin each day with a plan for what you want to accomplish personally and professionally and schedule in non-negotiable time for self-care.
LIMITING BELIEF #4 - “Inevitable change will make my skills and knowledge obsolete”
It’s no secret that we are living in a fast-paced world where new knowledge or skills can quickly become outdated or even obsolete. For some this can feel disheartening, like the invested time in gaining that knowledge or skill was wasted. The key, however, is to be enthusiastic about the potential these changes have to make things better for you and the world at large. Staying engaged, eager and enthusiastic about new possibilities and change allows you to apply your current knowledge and skills in unique ways that people without that prior experience would not be able to see.
NEW EMPOWERING BELIEF: Change allows myself and the world to evolve in positive ways and my enthusiasm about it brings new opportunities I would never have had otherwise
NEW EMPOWERING HABIT: Subscribe to blogs and newsletters of leaders in your field or industry and be on the lookout daily for changes or potential changes. Reflect on what excites you personally about these changes and how you can stay ahead of them through new training or experiences.
LIMITING BELIEF #5 - “Everyone else has it figured out except for me”
With social media being such a huge part of life, comparison is more rampant than ever before. Ideal lifestyles that can never be lived up to and which don’t actually exist are broadcasted daily. It’s almost impossible to avoid and easy to start believing that everyone else’s life around you is working out for them perfectly and something is wrong with you. But it’s not true! Focusing on other people’s highlight reel and comparing it to your own experience, especially when you feel confused or lost will instantly put you into a downward spiral. The moment you start looking outward at “everyone else” is the moment it’s actually time to begin looking inward and owning what is true for you.
NEW EMPOWERING BELIEF: The more that I focus on my own experience and truth the more connected with and certain I am about my true path
NEW EMPOWERING HABIT: Learn to let go of comparisonitis by turning your attention inward through a practice like yoga or meditation.
Inspiration: “Owning your own feelings, rather than blaming them on someone else, is the mark of a person who has moved from contracted to expanded awareness.” ~Deepak Chopra
LIMITING BELIEF #6 - “I can do it myself, I don’t need anyone’s help”
Here is the thing.... No one has ever created success alone. We are inherently social creatures and must rely on one another all the time. There are various reasons people hang on to this belief. It can come from feeling guilty for or ashamed of asking for help or from a fear of being let down by or rejected by others but we need each other to do great things in the world.
NEW EMPOWERING BELIEF: It is safe to ask for help and in asking for help I inherently also help others.
NEW EMPOWERING HABIT: Practice the law of giving and receiving by asking for help, guidance or simple presence from someone else every other day. On the other days practice giving your own time, kindness, or presence to those around you.
LIMITING BELIEF #7 - “I’m not good enough”
This belief is embedded in our human nature and has a tendency to get the best of us! It can take form in believing your are not skilled enough, talented enough or even deserving enough and it shows up in life as anxiety, overwhelm, perfectionism and procrastination. But building self-awareness can help you distinguish the voice of “not good enough” and beat this persistent limiting belief.
NEW EMPOWERING BELIEF: I am 100% worthy of all of my dreams and desires
NEW EMPOWERING HABIT: Practice self-awareness and learn to separate thoughts from your truth by starting a meditation practice, reflecting or talking to a counselor or coach.
LIMITING BELIEF #8 - “I have to fix or change ______ before I can _______”
One of the biggest barriers to success is believing you are not ready right now. We believe that once we are in that relationship, or lose that weight or feel better, heal etc. etc. .......then we can take action towards our dreams and achieve our goals. However, it is the belief that this is true that is holding us back from having what we desire now.
NEW EMPOWERING BELIEF: I am already perfect and whole and I can create whatever I desire now
NEW EMPOWERING HABIT: Notice where you tell yourself you are not ready and bravely take action towards your vision and goals every single day. Make sure to reward yourself for taking action!
We can find experiences to back up almost any belief, but the key is to make sure that we are consciously aware of the beliefs we are creating. If your beliefs don’t empower you, change them. Will your beliefs be the reason you stop taking action towards the results you want from life? Or will you change them into the ultimate opportunity to create something extraordinary — whether it is a transformation in yourself, your career or your life.